If it seems virgins though taboos about sex have lifted in these ostensibly open-minded times, there is one that holds steady: It may be that later-in-life virginity is dismissed as a problem with an easy fix. And the most recent data available, fromsuggests that just 2.
Yet there are many reasons that a thirty or fortysomething might never have had sex, says Libby, a year-old Canadian. It could be due to a childhood of abuse, or physical health issues like cerebral virgins, or a religious upbringing, or even lack of comprehensive sex education.
When she was well, she found that medication — for her mental health, and oral contraceptives to mitigate her very painful virgins — wiped out her libido.
What It’s Like to Be an “Old” Virgin
Richard also identifies poor mental health as a ara mina boso in his virginity.
He is now on antidepressants and — following substance abuse in his 20s — sober.
Dating apps are no solution — for him or many others. As Libby puts it: He is articulate, even wryly humorous, about his virginity, even as he says it causes him day-to-day unhappiness.